Whether he becomes "contrary" - in other words, will he feel a need to How you navigate those moments of disagreement will determine howĬlose you will ultimately be with your son. In other words, they still believe you are on their side and care about their needs and wants. Important reasons, then they at least need to feel you have heard themĪnd have a good reason for not helping them get what they think they They express their wishes and you can't meet them for safety or other So when babies express their wishes and you meet them, great. Loved you but always told you no about what you wanted, would you feel Important, when he sees that you care about satisfying his wishes, that's how optimism, competence and confidence develop. You want him to feel like he can have an impact on the world
"agency" in the world - the ability to express what he wants and try
If he has "big feelings" - and it certainly sounds like he does - youĬan expect him to let you know in no uncertain terms when he disagrees Limits and expectations, you can also expect him to have his own ideas. While you will need to guide him, and set appropriate But for the rest of your son's childhood, he will beĭeveloping his own sense of agency, which means developing his voice as a person in Toddlers don't yet have the neurological development to reason orĬontrol their emotions, as they will begin to by the time they're three The second year is the hardest stage of this self-assertion, because It usually comes as quite a shock - where did your sweet, compliant This self-assertion is in fact a healthy,ĭevelopmentally appropriate stage - but not easy for parents. Talk yet, but he can certainly communicate, by physically resisting Separate person with wants and needs of his own.Īs babies become less distractable, they get more clear about their own needs, and they try toĪssert some control over their environment to meet those needs, just as we all do.
I want to reassure you that this is actually a very positiveĭevelopment: the beginning of your child's asserting himself as a It is not unusual for babies at around a year old to begin to act
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